Tobias - It's really important that both of y'all are "in it to win it". We had counseling 4 years ago, but my W has now admitted that the whole time she was still blaming me for everything. She had not acknowledged her own contributions. Now that she has and is working on them (and I'm working on mine), I feel like we've got a good shot.
TxHubby - Believe me, I have not overlooked this. I have not had to write much on this on the board because I'm handling through my counseling sessions and conversations with my W. It has not been easy, but one thing I've recognized is her A was not they symptom it was the outcome of our former M/R. I say former marriage/relationship because it's all new going forward. Addressing those things that brought us to where we got 4 years ago and recently.
Onwards and upwards...
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17