Hugs to you HaWho! Death by a thousand paper cuts, yeah that about sums it up. I was waiting for you to throw in a how are those self help books (just kidding). My attempt at humor comes from knowing how awful and painful that conversation must have been.

"You have done things these past three years I didn't know you were capable of doing" - that is a strong and true and matter of fact statement, bravo!

So what do you want for you and your children? Your H talks a lot more about this fantasy life than actually living it. I'm not sure if that is good or bad. How long one can live in this type of situation, only you know.


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving