Thanks for the advice. I really didn't want to go there with the score card. But it got to the point where I got tired of her degrading my parents as if they hadn't done more for us, than any member of her family combined. My point was to simply remind her that they aren't what she is claiming them to be. But I see what your saying about how W may have taken it.
I initially wanted a 20 minute conversation and I allowed it to go longer, just trying to acknowledge and validate the reasons why she wanted to leave the MR. But a lot of time was me enduring getting yelled at and even hit one time. And your right about listing her flaws being a bad idea. I brought up examples, but it just led to "Then why do you want me." talk. So I see where your coming from.
Literally I was destroyed by my W by trying to say all the right things. W even complained about the things I was doing to work on this relationship. Some of the things she like and other things got on her nerves. That's when I told her that I wish she would have communicated those things with me sooner. Which has been a huge problem in our MR.
