I've been very busy with work of various sorts, and loving it all. I'm giving it all super positivity and it's really paying off. Both for myself, in terms of how I'm feeling about everything, but also from other people...they're really noticing the super positivity and responding to it in a big way. Not that I wasn't very positive before, I've just cranked it up a notch now.
I'm absolutely loving the changes I've made to my little house. My renovations are on hold for now. I'm about three quarters of the way there, but I'm having a super busy month with work, so I've sorted everything as much as I can to make it as nice as I can, for now, and then I'll get back to it.
Work in progress, eh? Just like life : o)
But yeah, I'm loving living in my little house. And also knowing that my mortgage is almost paid off. What a fantastic achievement for someone in their mid 40s who has lived a self employed/freelance life, never earning very much but doing work they absolutely love doing.
We're coming up to 2 years now, which is the point in our legal system where either of us can D without the other's consent. So I downloaded the papers. I'm letting them sit there for a while, so I can just live with it and get used to it.
One question has me a bit stressed out though. I have to write his address in. Or if I don't know, I have to write what reasonable means I've taken to try and find out.
I don't know where he's staying. I guess I'll just have to text him and ask. And then text again after a couple of weeks/a month if he doesn't answer. I think I'd really rather not though. I don't really ever want to speak to him again.
Anyway, other news. I've been seeing someone. He's the same age as me (one year older). He was M for a long time, but his W had an affair with her boss. He's been D for seven years. He has two grown up children.
I really like the choices he's made since he separated from his W and his D. We talked a bit about learning to get used to the trauma of it all and the choices that you make to try and get through. I feel he's made very positive choices (finding a new home, fitness for himself, bonding with his children, closeness with his own family, pursuing other non work related interests when he can).
He's very straight forward, a 'what you see is what you get' type person. It's very, very straight forward between us.
But most of all, we have a lot of fun together. There's been a few times when we've just skipped down the street together (quiet street, late in the evening) and been laughing our heads off as we do.
