Thank you all for your advice I'll take it on board.

I'll continue to:
DR
Keep as dark has I can.
Keep working on me for me.
GAL as best I can.
Detach although I have issues about it.

What I wont do:
Look to another relationship - when I feel I can't go on any longer I'll tell myself to give it at least another year.

Thanks.

Mark.

DR'ing started March 2017

Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".