Hmm, what's your goal? Is it to save your M or just get support for moving forward?
I say that cause your wife reached out to temp check, and you kind of Vomited in her face. We all know what she said is crap, but if you throw it in her face she will "learn" not to reach out to you, and when/if she seriously wants to reach out to reconnect, she won't because every time she reaches out it ends bad.
Ignore those texts, there's no winning situation in responding, you're not going to get her to admit she was wrong and you're only going to push her further away..
I get it, I hold onto that anger too, but you gotta just let it go and leave it unanswered.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized