HaWho, in between women mine was reading a bunch of stoic books on finding happiness by accepting that you can't change things (don't bother trying to right your wrongs, just let go of them and be happy). He was also posting a lot of stuff on FB about being a better person. Now that he is in full on limerence with OW2 he is pretty quiet.

I'm the cause of my own misery at the moment. I need to follow your example. I keep expecting I can get mine to do what I want instead of accepting that he is only going to do what he is going to do. He is off now on a camping trip with my S for his 14th b'day. I hope that his dad can make it about him for two days.