MY XH wanted to have FUN..He always looked at me as the prison guard to prevent him I expected him to be a grown up , a dad's --and he did it until he hit 40-then it was all about him as if he had no wife, no kids
While In mlc I said things to him like have fun as he left for the night I never asked where he was I listened to him talk about work I was there for him It was good for me to do that..I wanted to support him as I knew he was in a crises It didn't bring him back, but it was so worth it ..I needed to do it He moved out after 4 months from BD he filed 2 years later I tried for a long time II made a new life, raised the kids alone, worked and supported us I made new friends met another man ect took guitar lessons..joined a band at our music school when he M ow it was over for me
The goal here in DB I believe is getting a life for us becoming a better person and practicing that with our situation taking the high road no matter what they are doing when the time is pertly right..they will leave for good or they will return only time will tell
we can be as patient and present as we want,,we can keep hope for R one day,,we can change our patterns and become a better spouse and friend for a time even though it hurts like heck to watch the MLCer go and come as they please WE can choose any thing that works and we learn as we go
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
