The obsessive parts, the romanticizing of the other person, idealizing (OR negating them) the intense fear of rejection, the dependence, intrusive thoughts about the other person...
I may be off base here but some of what I have read on that topic suggest the LBSer can sometimes be the one in limerence.
Not all affairs fit this^^ situation as well.
If your m was actually a good solid one and this still happened, I would have lower expectations of a recon.
It means there is a problem in your w and not you or the dynamic between you two.
IF IF it really was solid and you're not just idealizing what you had,
then what is it that YOU can do to repair or restore this? (IMO the best news a counselor can give you is that you have issues b/c that means you are not powerless).
Also, I suggest you watch the TED talk video on infidelity by Esther Perel. She's pretty much the guru on why affairs happen
and which marriages are more likely to be salvageable after.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
