Sorry to drag up an older post, but I just had to comment on this:
Originally Posted By: Thornton
Basically, I think she regrets her decision to leave but she has painted such an ugly picture of me to all her friends and family that she can't turn back now without looking like an idiot.
There was a "reformed WAW" (she had reconciled with her H) that came here and shared her experience years ago, similar to reading Sandi's posts I found it really fascinating to hear things from her perspective because it helps to understand what our WAS's go through. Anyway I remember her saying that she almost decided not to reconcile with her H because she could not stand the thought of having to explain to all of her friends and family why she would want to get back with the person she had been trashing and dragging through the mud to them for months! She had made him out to be a horribly evil person to justify to her friends, family and even herself that leaving him was her ONLY course of action. When the WAS does this, what do you think their friends and family say? Well of course they tell her "leave that dirtbag ASAP!!!" The WAS crafts a situation that MAKES people tell him/ her what they WANT to hear. Much of it is exaggerated or just plain false. So to return, they have to explain to people that THEY were as much a problem as the LBS, and sometimes pride just won't let them do that!
