1. a plan of action designed to achieve a long-term or overall aim. synonyms: master plan, grand design, game plan, plan of action, plan, policy, proposed action, scheme, blueprint, programme, procedure, approach, schedule; More tactics, set of tactics
See all of that ^^^ is exactly what NOT to do. All of that implies this is simply something you are doing to get her back. And that's how she will see it. And if she sees it as "plan of action", "game plan", "tactics" etc. (which she will) then it will NEVER work. Don't talk "strategy", talk "goals". And your primary goal should be to take all of your W's criticism and use that to make permanent changes and become the best YOU that YOU can be, whether that means a life with or without your W. And I think you already are, but the difference is if it's a "strategy" it's temporary, but if it's a "goal" then it's permanent. See what I'm saying? If you're going to keep using that word which of course you are welcome to, I hope you will at least try and change your mindset a bit to being more goal-oriented.
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and you will see I am GAL and trying my best to DR, working on myself is ALL I can do as I'm the only one I can control.
Quite right, and all of that is great! But THIS doesn't fit with that goal:
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My entire post is about limerence and you will see I understand it can last anywhere between 3-36 months I'm aware it could be a long haul but what else can I do?
Please understand that limerence has no kind of guarantee attached to it, and it is not your goal to simply "outlast limerence" which I get the impression is what you are trying to do. I can practically see you marking off the days on a calendar! When you and your W started dating you were both in limerence. At some point it wore off and what happened then, did you break up? No, it was replaced with a more enduring type of love that laid the foundations for marriage. When limerence wears off it does NOT mean the relationship ends. You are not simply trying to persevere until her limerence wears off, because when it does you really don't know what will happen. All you can do is work on yourself, again become the best you possible. Become the better choice than OM. She was attracted to you before, what was it that she was attracted to? What characteristics? What can you do to get back to that? Those are the questions to ponder rather than "how long will this last."
I'm not saying not to have hope, but if your hope is in simply outlasting limerence then I'm afraid you may get complacent about becoming a better you! And that is the REAL goal of DB'ing. Fix yourself and the M may follow.
