Hi Advina - I loved your quote above - non exclusively dating one person grin

I haven't read back, but can see you have been around on the forum for a good while - so your sitch is pretty 'old' - forgive the term.

If that's the case (ie: spent years dealing with XH mayhem) I can see people may be ready to date sooner after D. I have waited for a year and not yet dipped that toe in the water - although there are a couple of attractive, single guys I know and I might be interested if they were etc..

What I say to myself is - I'm pretty much 50 now. I can do what I like (as long as that isn't damaging to others.) So it is fine to have boundaries, and apply them if needs be. I struggle with this as a 'nice girl' sometimes, so it is a work in progress. But I would say - keep it light, enjoy, browse, have some laughs, stay safe - and live fully in other parts of your life too. Romantic love can be lovely, but self-love, good relationships and purpose and meaning in our lives separate to those romantic relationships is so important..

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus