I'll chalk that as a small victory with a little more time on my side.
Absolutely! Even if it comes to D, a lot of times people think D is the end and it's time to throw in the towel but as a lot of us are fond of saying D is "just a piece of paper". In fact a lot of times the WAS doesn't feel truly "free" until after D. I've read and heard many stories (some were my friends in fact) where reconciliation didn't start until after D, sometimes well after.
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Wife asked if I was excited.
I remember my W telling me early on after BD that she thought BD would make me "happy"! She thought I wanted out of the M as bad as her. Shame on me for making her feel that way. Sounds like maybe there's some of that in your W's head as well.
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She replied yes and no. She said she still loves me and wants to remain in a relationship but I didnt treat her seriously when she said I had a last chance in the R. She said she has been working hard the last 2 years on our M and feels I started 2 months ago (All true). I try not to put much credence in her words as she has been all over the map since our separation started.
It sounds to me like that was a genuine expression of feelings from your W. Just remember, at times like that you LISTEN and VALIDATE. Even if you don't agree. "It sounds like you were frustrated that I didn't treat you seriously, I'm very sorry I made you feel that way." That statement is validating without agreeing. You're acknowledging her feelings. And THAT will make her feel like you've suddenly become Mister Sensitive and Compassionate (well, over time if you do it enough). People here used to say that when they were having convos with their SO they would try to picture AnotherStander on their shoulder whispering in their ear telling them what to say to validate, LOL! Hey, whatever works!
Good job on reading and keeping yourself busy, of the newer sitches I've read since popping back on here YOU are the one that seems best in touch with DBing. Stick with it!
