Be kind to yourself, you're under extreme stress and duress. No one interaction holds the significance you think it does. You don't have to say anything in the deacon meeting and it's not going to matter over the long term. You could give the most brilliant monologue of your life and it also wouldn't matter over the long term.
If W is having an EA its 100% a waiting game and an exercise in not making things worse. All you can really do is stabilize the situation by giving her more space than she's asking for.
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
