"I may not have always been the best husband, but I was committed to you. If I hurt you along the way I'm sorry. You cheated on me, good luck with that." Then he completely shut her out, went dark, and went on with his life.
To her, that was like smelling salts
Wow! Great post!
I going to use that line you quoted above instead of reading my letter. That's gold! Thanks for the confidence booster.
Teapot, do NOT use that quote to her... It's the attitude that made the difference, not the words.. I've been on these forums for a little over a year, and I've seen 2 or 3 wayward spouses come on this site.. All three came here because they cheated on their spouses and their spouses were set on divorcing them because of it and moving on.. They fckd up, they knew it, and their spouses wouldn't stand for it.
Be strong, be the best you, don't look to them for approval or acceptance, just do you, that's your best chance..
Ps- one of the most respected posters on this site, sandi2, was a WW. When her H found out, she wanted to move out, her H told her you can go, but don't think you can ever come back.. That got her attention and she stayed.
Why not use that quote? If I say it with confidence won't it be effective? Would it sound like I was pursuing or seem weak? Help me out here. Also the quote from sandi2's husband sounds like it would work in my situation as well.
Married 9, Together 13, Divorce in Progress M: 44, W: 44, S: 7 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/19/17
