Thanks job, I think you are right and that's all I can really do for now.
And thanks for your comment too, cadet...as much as I don't like hearing that
To clarify, I do not feel positive about her being in the withdrawal stage, and I don't necessarily feel like I want to try and pin her down to a timeline or MLC stage. I am more or less trying to determine how I will respond when she either wants to get a new place OR wants to come home. One of those is inevitable. She might need to get a new place, and I think that wouldn't be horrible if we can afford it if it. What I am not sure about is if she wants to come home (for any reason), if that is the right decision or not. That is more or less why I was trying to figure out where I thought she might be mentally. She is definitely showing more positive behavior than a month ago. She has never asked for or discussed divorce. From the beginning of this thing she never said she wanted a divorce. She said she wasn't sure what she wanted at first (regarding R). Now she says that she wants to make it work, but I think she is still foggy and a little selfish right now trying to figure herself out...but not as much as even a month ago.
I have been pretty good at detaching and doing my own things to better myself and make ME happy, but this apartment timeline approaching has started to get me a little anxious about where we are with things. I realize that isn't a productive thing to think about, but you know it can be hard to put that stuff aside sometimes.
I'm going to work at keeping zero expectations and doing what you said job, keeping the light on and the door ajar but living my life to the fullest. Some days thats a piece of cake...other days I have to work on it. The days I have to work on it are getting easier, though...so thats good.
