That probably depends on how you EXCEPT those changes to work. Of the changes are solely to influence W, then maybe you should focus on other changes for YOU. By all means clear out your negative contributions to M but at this stage W isn't interested. She will notice but for now it isn't enough for her. This means she isn't receptive not that you have to do more and more until it is enough.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together