my wife went out tonight after work. she let me know ahead of time. while she leaves for the weekend its the first time she stayed out on a weeknight. When she texted to say she would be home in the morning i said we need to talk. the few texts back and forth were short. one of hers said "I'm not going to feel bad for doing what i want to do". i reminded my request to talk tomorrow stating she deserves happiness to essentially deflate things
having reread the Divorce Remedy and reread many wayward spouse posts, I've come to realize Sandi's advice of tough love and consequences ma be long over due. i just worry nothing will change things, but know enough to know more of the same isn't much better.
We share income and expenses. She gets her hair died every 4-6 weeks at about $150 and nails every two weeks. I don't have a cell phone to pay as mine is paid through work but hers is paid by us. Further she needs some cosmetic dental work for about $1-2000.
bomb drop was Oct 2016, but she is still in the house, hasn't talked about an actual move out date, nor have i brought it up.
i suspect an OM, but have spied or chased, and definitely know she is enjoying the party life with new friends a number of which are newly single female friends.
i feel i may have set things back with the texts. I tried to hold back and didn't go over the top, but enough to definitely ruffle her feathers
BD Oct 2016 Me 47, W 43 together 25 years S 25, D 22
