I'll add this: I'm noticing a trend. Every question you ask relates to how you should respond to what H is doing or saying.
How about we put reactions and responses aside and let's talk about YOUR ACTIONS (not *re*actions)? You've been operating on the defensive. Maybe it's time to start getting back to T0 now.
Do you have time to take a daily walk?
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
