Sandi. I wish you could talk to me in real life...
So I haven't talked to h. He told his mom he was done. She said she spent hours talking to him (I did not ask her to). That he didn't give a reason. He just told her everything was going to be okay but that he was done and there was no changing his mind. She said he was like a completely different person. He was 'unplugged' shut out cold etc. she said she cried as he dropped her off and ask him not to change all our lives like this again.
Soon after she text me that I got a text from H. If you remember he had told me he wasn't going to the concert. He was only going if they had an extra ticket but that he didn't think they would.
Well his text says I have until 11am Saturday then I'm going to the concert with my bosses.
I haven't responded. I don't plan on it. I had already told him my study group was between 4-5 and was about 30 minutes away and I would need to be gone for 2 hours. So he knows that doesn't work.
My family wants me to respond to him and ask him to coke get his things.
I didn't respond as I said. So he then sends my mom a text ....
'Would you be able to help watch the boys for 2-3 hours on Saturday afternoon? W has to meet for a study group to study for her test on Monday. I'm heading to west palm for the evening with all of my bosses. If not don't worry about it I will figure something out. Thanks!'
I asked my mom not to respond.
So I am working on homework and not planning on making a rash response right now.
Do I ask him to leave or just let it play out? My plan was to say nothing. See if he comes home and if he comes home just say nothing and just work on my school work. Not say a word about anything.
My parents think he's lashing out like he did about bike week when he first dropped the bomb a few months ago. That he's lashing out because I told him no to the concert.
I've been in touch with a friend that's an attorney and have received some numbers of some local attorneys. I am going to try to consult with at least one on Friday so I know my rights before I do anything.
I'm. Losing it. I'm exhausted. This is my only place to vent. So I'm sorry everyone had to hear me sounding so weak. I'm trying to hold it all together. I just took the boys to lunch but I am dying inside. I'm looking at this baby and I feel like I'm falling apart. I have let my children down again. I brought an innocent life in the world to live in separate homes. I didn't have children to see them 50% of the time. I know I'll be okay I just have a lot of mud to walk through.
I'm just not sure what my next step is.
Respond to the text? Ask him to move out? Or just not react to anything.
