maybe I choose men who aren't sexually attracted to me and that makes me feel safe?
Or maybe you choose men with low sex drives or who are emotionally distant because it makes you feel safe?
This is definitely NOT about your attractiveness but about who you're picking. The question is WHY are you picking them? And WHY do you stay with them?
Honestly, if I was dating a guy and he wasn't sexually interested in me, I wouldn't hang around very long ( and this is from me, who does have a history of hanging out with emotionally unavailable men. But sexually unavailable? Never!)
So the work you need to do is to figure out why you are afraid to date sexually assertive men. Where do you think that comes from?
