25yearsmlc 10 yrs later I File D (part 4)

[25yearsmlc]

Wow, 25 - how horrible.

Doesn't sound like any of you could have picked up the signs.


Now that I've talked to the others, I agree. I wanted The group leader to know that this should not cast a shadow on the organization's value. It's really useful. (Imagine if DB had people right there physically present (and able to go for drinks after a meeting)

and hang out on weekends so that GAL is easier and with those who really do get it.

The group leader said that she was reflecting on whether Hope was stressed enough b/c we do tend to focus on getting thru the gritty details and I think that's totally valid to examine.

[b]Doesn't sound at all premeditated.


True- and no one thinks he planned this. Several reasons for that belief but i don't think I want to get into the forensics aspect here. Maybe later or elsewhere.

So, full agreement no premeditation.

And probably nothing we could have seen?? He was wound tightly though, wouldn't you say?



Perhaps when he went into the house he just became suddenly enraged; perhaps he was abusive in the past and you all didn't know it.

Or - perhaps she taunted him and he just snapped; then, horrified at what he had done, went home and killed himself.[/b]

^^^all possibilities.
I'm just shaking my head, literally I just did.


No way of knowing. But a good lesson to discuss in the group the importance of getting treatment for depression symptoms, and to keep the focus more on GAL and moving forward, rather than ruminating on the loss.

Amen sister. Last Friday I had lunch with my friend who lost her son in the fall (undiagnosed cardiac myopathy).

She mentioned how she could not see living everyday the next 40 years, missing her son this way, and she broke down.

All I could say was "but maybe everyday won't be like THIS day"....

there's some moral to this anecdote I can't quite express at the moment.