He's very impulsive. Just like last time. I can't forgive him if he does this again... not clear on the use of the word "if" here^^^.
his mom even saw this weekend how he is 2 different people.
My dad said he just throws everything out and starts over. He thinks I'm the reason for his unhappiness. standard script^^^ and nothing you say will change his mind.
IN TIME he may see things differently - probably - but you are wasting your breath wondering about what words to say in which order...
LET GO...get back to Your Life
I'm going to get out of his way and just stay silent. If he comes here to get stuff I won't say a word or look at him.
well, okay. Can you get out of the house? And T0, you must get out of HIS head. Way too much time in there...
You need some space. No, I'm not talking about what HE needs, but what YOU need.
So please try no more planning "algorithms" for what you'll do IF IF IF he does/says/moves out...
just get back to your own life. For now. Because This is cray cray
Who leaves a family with a newborn.
Who? Your h.
I'm sorry for the bluntness but this^^ is what you are facing. I'm not trying to project but to sympathize.
H left me alone, unable to drive or bathe, 5 days after my one and only health care crisis in 35 years.
Within weeks, he was on fb about the "Love of his life".
Is it crazy? Yeah I think so. is it right? No.
Is it real? Don't know, can't know, don't need to know. What I DO KNOW is that it's hurtful and harmful and that is what I know to be true.
We don't know WHY your h is doing what he's doing. But we pretty much know whatever is happening is bad news and he SAID he's leaving and he gave you a date and that's that.
For now, ^^that's the truth.
I think the see sawing you do is getting you nowhere fast and I actually think it's unhealthy for you. And it undermines your words.
(not saying you're nuts! - just to stop the spinning). Let him go. Get some space and clear your head.
The truth will be revealed in time.
I guess that's enough said. I asked him last night please to not leave our family.
well, I would not ask again. That's my .02
Be who you were meant to be. IF he has a seismic change within AND IF he is willing to repair the damage
then let's cross that bridge when you get to it. It could happen. You can hope.
But the hope, thus far, has been attached to expectations and fears and that's not a good combination.
((( )))
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