25yearsmlc 10 yrs later I File D (part 4)

[25yearsmlc]

thanks Leahsue

I must be mindful of not being a rescuer -and a tendency to deflect from my own struggles by diving into others, as well. It's not a trait i want to keep outside of a structured rubric. (I could be a counselor IF I KNEW that I'd turn the clock off at 6, which I guess I'd know, b/c I'd learn it or not practice as a counselor.)

I admire & am implementing better boundaries for sure

It's something I'm watching for.

At the group there's another guy - "S"- there who seemed about to break. In his divorce there will be a 3 day TRIAL- lovely.

So we were trying to prop him up, not R...

sigh

years ago, here, a WAW took her own life and her h blamed himself for awhile.

In hindsight I don't think his WAW was in a MLC at all; she had undiagnosed mental illness. I recall her getting the diagnosis and within 2 months, ending her life.

this crap is very unhealthy for us. and on that note, I will take steps tonight AND this week for self care.

We cannot affect our spouse and we cannot go back in time & we cannot "wait" for the future we hoped for, to happen. (Or call that "Standing")

I have to be here now

((( )))