25yearsmlc 10 yrs later I File D (part 4)

[leahsue]

Oh 25, what a tragic, sad story! I too, believe the stress brought on by BD, especially when it's sprung on us with no real warning signs, can be catastrophic. I think the acute sadness and loneliness can be overwhelming. I'm so sad for the children. Lose, lose, all the way around.

I also know your tendency to shoulder others' heartbreak, so be careful not to immerse yourself in the "what we could have done" too deeply. Those types of meetings lend themselves to quick, strong bonding among the walking wounded, and thank goodness for that- but at the same time, we can never really know what goes on in each heart and mind, what baggage each of us brings to the meeting table, or the depth of struggle that goes on in all of us. I'm sure you were kind to him, and had he shown further signs of needing help, I can easily see you being one to linger behind after the meeting and offer to help him find answers, or at least more help.

(((((25)))))))