However, I did slip up on Sunday, if that's what it is, when I again apologized to her at church for acknowledging my short comings and hurting her. That will be the last time I apologize.
Sounds pretty minor as far as backslides go.
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In our final meeting with our Deacon, should I read to her a letter that acknowledges some of her complaints and to touch upon the good times we shared.
From Sandi's rules (#3):
"Do not point out good points in marriage or try to get him/her to read marriage books, look at your M pictures, etc."
I think you now fully understand these deacon meetings are not doing any good. Personally I wouldn't write a letter at all, but would just go in, look her straight in the eye and tell her you appreciate her sharing her thoughts with you, that it helps you to better understand what her feelings are and that while you may not agree on every point you acknowledge how she feels and will respect that.
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I want to express to her how I feel and how her EA has accelerated the downfall of our marriage.
It actually didn't. EA's are a symptom, not a cause. Believe me, I understand. We all want to find that "smoking gun" that caused our marriage to fall apart. But there isn't one, it happened over a long period of time and for a number of reasons. Once we accept that WE are the reason it failed then we can start the process of rebuilding ourselves and maybe start a new relationship with our spouse.
