What have you learned from all the advice that has been given to you? What have you done with it?
You said that one week your W wants to work on your M, the next she doesn't. You aren't much different. You both shift with the wind. Where do you expect the stability in your M/R to come from if neither of you are stable?
When you choose to stabilize yourself, your chances of success will increase. Until then, 9 months/5 years/10 years will not make a difference.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa