G, be careful to only own your part, ya know? Should you have maybe thought of those things? Maybe...hindsight, though...
The truth is that there are 27 years olds that would have loved what you and your daughter offered. So, there was no real way to know he wasnt one of them. I think that maybe he should have known whether he was.
Look, you both tried to see if it would work out. I would like to think his intentions were pure going in.
I am a real believer in things happening as they should and that all the trials are paths to growth. And sometimes those paths succk along the way. LOL!
We just do the best we can and when we know better we do better. You have learned here, G. So that next time, you will know to see that you both want the same things.
You are generous to a fault and loving beyond measure...it's why you hurt so deeply.Someone extraordinary and worthy will one day be very fortunate to be with you.
Congrats on going for the house. Be careful..and open to the possibilities.
I saw my IC last night and she always says the exact same things you say. And she is EXCELLENT. She also told me to only own my own stuff. She believes he led me to believe that my life was suitable for him because he knew my sitch and nothing was hidden. She believes he tried to believe he could do that because he wanted to be with me, but in the end, he wanted something different.
I do realize, at this point,it doesn't matter anymore. We tried, it didn't work out, so now we move on.
My IC was really seeing a change in me. I was talking positively about things I am excited for. I also spoke positively about myself and she said it was like music to her ears to hear me say good things about MYSELF. She said "Ginger, I don't know how else to tell you this, but you are a dam good catch, and the right guy will appreciate one day, I just know it" She said I am not to settle. She said that doesn't mean be super picky, but not settle for anyone who treats me less than I deserve to be treated. I am also no longer going to put myself in situations where there are major obstacles like distance or a must have of more children . I was so focused on this one being so close to me unlike all my others, and that our relationship was good, that I think we overlooked some very important issues.
I would loooooove a partner by my side. But I am resettling into my usual life unpartnered. My IC stressed how good it is that I am so self-sufficient. And I am. I don't need anyone for money or to be a daddy to my daughter. I don't need to get married. I just want someone I can be loving partners with and enjoy life with. But until that right one comes along, I am better off alone. And not being so sad about it.
I realized yesterday my hope is back. I don't think it's the end of the world, or the end of my love life. Like you said, UR, everything happens the way it was meant to. I believe what was meant for me will not miss me. And thank you for those beautiful things you said about me. I can't wait to see you either!
