Hey stunned... found myself drawn to your story for some reason... I'll have to catch up from the beginning.
For your bday... no... don't ask her out for a drink. Fun with friends and fam is good. If she texts, just thanks maybe with a smiley face... nothing more.
Don't say things like 'I'm not giving up on you'... that's what she wants to hear and does nothing for you.
Keep going and posting.... read other threads. I learned a lot from reading other threads about how to respond in certain situations. Best of luck!!
Im not sure she really wants to hear "I'm not giving up on our"? But I think you're right about not asking to hang out, but what if she asks me to hang out? Tho I highly doubt she will