On way to DB Victory?

[sellout]

Ok guys it has been about three weeks since I last posted and wanted to provide an update and get some advice.

She is still seeing OM. We had dinner (kissed), we went to counseling a couple of times, we went to brunch, we took a nice selfie together, etc... more and more. She broke up with the OM and then got back with him. More of the same mess. One weeks she wants to "possibly work on marriage" next week "I have no desire to work on this marriage"

I am now going dark. What is everyone's thoughts on telling her that I am going to start dating someone else?

Also, we finally made it to court and they decided to give us 9 months to complete mediation. Maybe that is a blessing in disguise to allow the TIME thing on here that everyone seems to think works?

Thoughts?