Thanks for stopping by:-) I am pretty honest that I was no expert DBer, and I am still not. Getting better tho that's for sure. I sympathize with Lim too. If I thought in any form my H had feelings or attraction for OW, that would be a deal breaker. I just know myself. He has regret and disgust for both her and himself. It's hard enough given that it happened, but if it still existed in any form, I think I would lose all attraction for him.
I don't think I have any jealousy issues or hypersensitivity regarding H and his attraction to other people. He is also not the type of guy who goes out, meets new people, or even engages in men's activities. He spends his free time with the kids, family, tinkering in the garage alone, and he likes to take long bike rides. In fact, quite the opposite, I think it would be more attractive if he were more social or out-going. All of his friendships (and relationships with women) have been other people pursuing him. Even when I met him, I felt like he was attracted to me, but I had to make it very safe for him to ask me out, etc.
My current struggle is I fall into feelings of apathy and loss of interest in general. Someone recently sent me an article, which outlined the Four Horsemen of relationship destruction/failure. I realized I have been guilty of all four. We have had some disagreements lately and fallen off the Retrouvaille wagon and admittedly I don't have motivation to get back on. I haven't shared many details, well, because I guess my mind has been focused on other things.
Most of you here are caught up in this whirlwind of emotions and fear of losing the M. I have my M, yet sometimes I feel like I would rather just be on my own. What frightens me is the apathy at times.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
