Limerence and My Situation

[Parkema]

Hello All,

After reading these boards I would like again to thank all for your support and experience.

I have been reading Sandi2's posts and see mentioned "dropping the rope", do I understand it is a form of NC more importantly a more aggressive form of NC? After having read DR and the LRT I feel I'm spinning my wheels and that my sitch is becoming stagnant and my WW is getting used to her life as it is. I find it very difficult to DTR due to our continued contact both wanting to see our children when we need to.

I don't operate an open door policy but can't really allow my WW not to see her children when she and they want!
Basically my WW does see them each day either at my "home" (we have been separated since the beginning of March 2017) or alternatively when she obviously has them. I NEVER return back to the family home due to the presence of the OP/LO and me not wanting to go to prison and so when the WW has them I FaceTime each morning and last thing at night.

To sum up.
Separated with me having to move out after I was told of her affair with co-worker.
D-Day was 4-months ago (been going on for nearly 7-months)
Have 2 children who we both want to see each and every day.
Practicing DR as best I can LC instead of NC but initiated by the WW ALWAYS.
No pursuing on my part, no texts, phone calls or emails.
Contact is always face-to-face and initiated by her.
GAL as best I can with shared visitation of 2 boys but this is strenuously pursued by me.

How can I better "drop the rope"

Thanks all

Mark.