It seems like you are in a better place with his craziness. I have wild swings. Some days I hate him so much and just want to file and get out of this mess. Other days I feel bad for him and worry how he will end up. Some days I even miss him. Those are the days that surprise me. It does feel like living in some scientific experiment.
Thank you so much for the comments about my H and the shopping. That really put things into perspective for me. I do think he was hungry at times. He has described a feast or famine situation growing up and he is very weird around food.