WH came back. Piecing. Past the 2 year mark ...

[Coconut]

Blu,

I just read your comment to Lim, with your "advice" and then your explanation of what you would do. Just had to let you know what a great post it was. As I'm sure you know, even though I knew what I should do, I often did things quite the opposite because "I just needed to".

I completely empathize with Lim, how could a spouse, who truly has remorse, see an AP as anything good after the devastation their A caused to their spouse and family..

But your response got me wondering, how hyper sensitive the A has made you towards him doing things us guys seem to be wired to do. For example, if you overheard him and a friend commenting about a cheerleader at a game, or if you saw him staring at a "hot girl" nearby. I get the hypersensitivity towards the AP, but do you find that bleeds towards general comments? I'm just trying to wrap my head around how much a WS has to change for successful piecing, or at least to avoid pouring salt on old wounds.