My rebound became my wife and I thought it was a rebound...but it turned into something special. But if you read my thread you will see that there were still design flaws.
I understand pain. I understand wanting it to end. It is sooooo easy if someone comes along who does make you feel like perfection. But be very careful to make the right choice. I love my W. I am also ready to just stop the pain. But if I file for D and / or she moves out I think my pain will only be stronger. And even if there is someone to ease the pain... is that fair to that person? Is that going to make any type of future with my W easier?
The word hate is strong. And maybe it's therapeutic but without forgiveness there is no future. Even if you decide to pursue a different relationship hate shouldn't be in your heart.
That text I see as a bit snarky but also as an expression of pain. "oblivious" (and maybe it resonates with me because I was oblivious) may just be a sign that this is something you need to show her a different side of.
