Looking for guidance

[Jim1234]

From what you've written, it sounds like you are doing everything right... 180, GAL, NC, detaching,etc.

I assume this will be the standard conversation we have been having. I'm not passionate enough. She's sexual, spontaneous, etc........... She says the above. I say ok, I hear you, I want you to be happy,

Judging from what you've said, though, it sounds to me like "OK, I hear you, I want you to be happy", may not be the right response. Validate the crap out of what she's saying, and ask directly for her to tell you specifically what she needs from you. If it is acceptable to you, then agree to put forth effort along those lines, and ask her to guide you. Obviously, DO NOT get defensive or angry when she tries to guide you (and tell you "you're doing it wrong").

That's my $ .02 anyway....