First time here, part 3

[leahsue]

Thanks Cadence and 25, my faithful virtual partners in crime..... (said with a very full heart!)
I'm off to the girl's retreat. In another life, we will find a way to have virtual friends actually meet up and what a string of conversations that would be!
Last night I was reading some posts over on the surviving divorce threads, and came across one that JuJu wrote about her STBXH. I got so caught up in her story and I have sought her out today and asked her to skim over my thread and give me some feedback from her perspective. Not sure if you are familiar with her story, but the way she describes her H's abrupt leaving, can't find signs of OW, distancing, then months later come to discover he has a serious problem with drug addiction..... got me to thinking. I don't know if I ever verbalized this on here, but one of the first things both of my two grown children suggested was possibly that in this wild, exciting, fast paced big city life/job, H got caught up with some fast paced people and began to do what they do- well, you get the picture. NYC, Wall St., heavy drinking crowd, plus the newness of it all going to his head, not to mention the stress of the new position and responsibility..... anyway, we eventually sort of dropped that idea. But now I wonder about hard social drug use...... I hope JuJu can give me some signs maybe to look for when I see him in person. Hard to make a guess since I'm not around him. Anyway, I'd love to know others' thoughts on this.

Bottom line is, really doesn't matter right now- it could matter a great deal later, but first things first, gotta get him to Alabama b4 I can pick him apart. JUST KIDDING!

Everyone have a great weekend!