I still believe you need to work on yourself and leave your wife to decide if she's going to do the work on herself. While I absolutely do believe you should show her changes that are permanent - I don't believe you should become a doormat. Going on trips to New Orleans, living in an apartment for 6 months after all this. Not a healthy situation. You want to be her husband and her partner - not her cake.
I agree. I think I intellectually know this but it is so hard to detach. I know I need to do it for myself. I think we both need this marriage to die in some sort of way. Today I am going to take action and start to detach. This is going to require some inner strength but I have run myself into the ground over the last 2 months pursuing. Wish me luck
