HI exquisite , thanks for the insight. I honestly have no idea. We have been in a long distance relation for a quite a while so his habits are a mystery to me. Which he seems to want to keep that way. The only way for me to know is to spy and hire someone which I don't think is a good idea. If he wants to share his life with us he is welcomed otherwise no need. Financially he lives in a different country I am not liable for anything he does. Well technically but if he is in trouble will I be able to get away. In my culture we stay completely financially separate. This has its ups and downs. Could he be addicted to painkillers maybe and maybe not. Could he be in a relation maybe maybe not. Could he be working his ass off maybe maybe not. No idea...I am wondering about the depression and withdrawal stage, how long should I expect that to be. Could he be in that .Would he ever wake up at least to talk and discuss like adults do. Is it silly to request proper closure rather than just completely letting go with no talk. I know it is me to decide. And I am not sure if life with him will be good I feel we need to talk and I know I don't want it forced. So for that most probably I need to wait until he is ready to talk. Does that sound lame? Weak? A question exquisite ... How did your relation changed after you knew that now?
M 45 H 45 D1 12 D2 9 BD 04/14 Living two different state Not officially separated
