I can also envision a scenario where you quit asking him for help and he gets curious why, maybe he says "I want to come over and see baby tomorrow" and you say "sorry, not possible, baby will be at my mothers", and then he gets upset and says "you can't keep my child from me!", then you say "Hm, what do you propose, I'm taking care of child and have to run a schedule to make sure baby is cared for...are there certain times you'd like me to plan on being here? If so I'm happy to make that happen..."

Bottom line, it may become a benefit to HIM to make a schedule at some point if you let things take their course.

Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15