Ditto to all that has already been said. You are a tank for those girls.
As we all know, projection and MLC go together. Those seemingly outrageous statements your exw makes? It's been written that you often can make sense of their statements if you simply you turn the "you" to "I." In which case, your exw would be telling the truth to her kids: "I abandoned you."
I have witnessed the projection first hand and it is flabbergasting. It's been pointed at me though and not my boys. Sadly, your wife directs it at her kids who, of course, are not expected to make any excuses for her.
Keep up the great work!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
