Well it seemed to be going better last week after I discovered the OM and we hung out a lot more. She treated me better. She was more honest. She spoke more about the future BUT she also still talked to OM since she feels he didn't ask for any of this (I disagree but didn't tell her that..even if she told him we were separated she was still married and living in the same house). But she is scared as there were of course real issues that I need to work on. I showed a better side of me for the past month but of course had a weak moment two days ago. So it probably didn't go well... When I realized that she still mentioned depression and not knowing what to feel I decided I need to be there for her to help her address that but NOT as her H but as her friend. It also made me realize I need to be authentic I cannot just tell her I am fine and okay with everything when I am not.
But the reason I say trust your gut is because of something Michele wrote in her book as well: monitor results. And of course every situation is different. But I may be in denial.
