What exactly makes you think she still has feelings for him?
Because she saw OM and texted her friends that the "hot guy" was the OM?
If time seeing him since, I am sure some feelings went through her but they could very well be fleeting.
I think about when I saw my ex BF after about 6-7months at a party. He told the friend about how I looked wonderful and it was nice to see me. He was dating someone else at the time too. Doesn't mean we had feelings for each other.
All I am saying is, I don't think I have ever seen an exBF and felt "nothing". (I see my exH and I feel nothing, but then again, I see him enough because we share a daughter). Sometimes some memories flow back in with an ex, but like I said, they are fleeting.
I am sure it is very hard because this woman is your wife and the ex BF was her AP. But to her, it was her BF.
So, my hope for you is that there is no real EA type feelings and you have a wonderful time in Germany. Our intern from work just got back from a semester there and said it was awesome.
