Good luck man. You're where I was. It kept going about like you describe for a few years and now I've decided to bail. I'm so much happier.
Your wife is not sympathizing enough with the pain she has caused you and the damage she has done to the M. You're shouldering too much of that alone and it'll slowly kill you. She needs to step up but when you gently try to tell her that she gets mad because she doesn't want to accept what she's done. Was she a spoiled daddy's girl? It seems like it. They can do no wrong.
I wish you the best with whatever you decide in the long run. My question is are you happy right now? Are you happy with how this is all going?
