Stunned, thought about you last night. If you have the DR book read pages 99-100 again. Im reading a 2nd time. There's several others stories like this in the book and it shows how the pursuing just doesn't work. Not trying to beat you up at all. Just goes to show that the pursuers logic is natural, but just doesn't work in these cases.

It's tough man, I know it first hand. You seem like a good guy so I hate to see you go through this, esp the hard way. Gather yourself up and devise a plan. While you stop pursuing her, work on what needs to be worked on to make your life more pleasant. Please don't sit idle while the pursuing stops. This is your chance to prove to yourself and the world that you have something great to offer.

Be positive, you never know this could be the wakeup call you guys needed. Yall can be back stronger than before.


M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year
T 7 Years

Wife left October 2016
Affair began August 2016

Me 31 years old
Wife 29 years old