the woman who screenshot that to your h, and did not reply to YOU, was wrong to do that.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
how do you know she's pro divorce if she just remarried?
I mean, how do you "know"?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Yes H mom told Me she asked her to reach out to H which is why I reached out to the woman to tell her to please not contact H on my behalf.
She has told me herself and told me last BD that H was obviously unhappy and divorce is better for the children then an unhappy father. This is the same thing she said this time.
H hasn't seen her in over 12 years and they haven't really talked since last BD.
I had a feeling before H mom admitted to me that she asked her to talk to him that the woman already knew because she had been texting me a lot prying on how were things. I thought she was just wondering about the baby but now I know that wasn't the case.
She's been divorced 3 times and I guess I felt I 'know' she's pro divorce from the things she's said. She told me obviously H isn't happy at home if he's saying he's done and that he's done this before and he obviously feels he made the wrong decision coming back and that he shouldn't just stick around for the kids. That he deserves to be happy
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
if the friend woman wasn't moved by your request, I don't think more words will help. Your h is either embarrassed or hiding something or both.
If you are going to raise the issues, talk to your h and no one else outside your family.
Again, what was your r like with your mil?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
We do not talk all the time. She is very child like. Sees Disney movies alone. H and I always say she doesn't live in reality. But she's very nice and means well. Just hard to relate to. She relates more to the kids. For example when she visits I will come home from work to find her coloring st my dining room table alone.
She was very good to me last BD. Does not support anything H does and does not support him leaving she does not believe in divorce and believes H is depressed and she wants him to seek counseling. She is very trusting and I don't believe she had bad intentions asking this woman to speak with H but she is also naive.
Wow, TO, that's a lot! I totally agree with 25- that woman is way beneath you. No more talk, contact, anything with her from you. Let her be on the low road. You stick to the high one. I know how hard this will be for you to do this- and others may disagree here.... but I think your best course of action is (again, I know this will require you biting your tongue in half) to drop the whole discussion with H. He is obviously not being honest with you about communication with other people, but I don't think bringing it up to him is going to change that for the better. It hasn't in the past, has it?
Can you take yourself back to that place we went months ago, when I told you when you get tempted to talk talk talk to him, and need to just be quiet, to picture all of us peeking into your kitchen window saying in a hissing collective voice, "T0!!! STFU!!!!" At the very least, get a good laugh out of that visual. I just did. We could all probably use that visual, come to think of it. And I'm going to start with ME! LOL. Hang in there.
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
