Who's fault is this again? Can I forgive her?

[roist]

Irish please don't take this the wrong way. It is meant to be helpful or at least my thoughts on it.


Your W did a nice thing. For someone reaching out sending flowers was a step in the right direction. It was a good occasion and she seized it.

It was inappropriate of her to mention not being her choice.

The reaction of your D was understandable but probably disproportionate to what occurred. Your W triggers negative reactions in your girls. Who would blame them. I am not sure how but if it was my girls I would try figure out how to reduce the affect of such triggers. In a polite way help them detach.

I am sorry this almost ruined her big day and am glad it didn't

Best wishes