Thanks everyone for all the thoughtful responses I will come back later and address them.
I'm in a dilemma. I haven't involved anyone or sought anyone to speak with H. I have told my parents and H mom knows things aren't great but doesn't know the capacity. Well I found out his mom asked a childhood friend to speak to h. He hasn't talked to her since last BD. She was not pro marriage last BD. I've always thought she liked H more than a friend. Anyway long story short she's pro divorce. Has 4 kids 4 diff dads just got married again. So anyway I reached out to her and asked her very nicely to please not involve herself that H mom had asked her to and I was sorry but to please not feel the need. I just said I didn't care if they were friends but that we were keeping our problems private and if he talked to her that's fine but that she didn't need to reach out to him like Hmomaakdd. Well long story short she screen shot and sent everything I said to her to H so now he's done I'm controlling he's moving out and ignoring me.
Do I just say nothing to him in response to his anger? I haven't said sword to him yet.
I'm very hurt by her involving herself and her screen shorting my messages like a child.
