NYGal: Together and Doing the Work

[Stormchaser]

My W worked with OM for another year after BD.

I did catch her deleting things. Her reason was she didn't want me to worry. She knew even the mere mention of his name caused distress. Things were innocent, yet I couldn't STAND that they still communicated. PERIOD. Even if it was once a month.

It could be that she's protecting you. She may know how this bothers you.

In my case, my W finally quit her job once the OM got promoted. She never gave notice - just resigned on the spot. I'm a firm believer that once an affair is busted at work, employment should end immediately. One of the biggest regrets I have is letting her stay on a year after she was caught. I have nothing but disdain for the MC that advised this.

You may want to discuss this with your W. That this work situation is no longer tolerable.