Hang in there bud. Good news is that its pretty fresh and sounds like no affair is involved. If you get bored, look at my thread and do the opposite! Its been 9 months and I've done most things wrong yet I still continued to do them. Not only have I done things wrong but I lost myself along in the process. I came here for advice but subconsciously I think I may have wanted people to feel sorry for me. I reread my thread and people give great advice here.
Keep asking for advice but I can tell you me pestering my wife may have did it in. Try and give her some space, get some clues as to what's really going on. May be some trauma involved. I'm sure a woman could give you some better insight as to your wife's problem.
I say this because I don't want you to feel as I do. Who knows your future, but the faster you improve your life, the more research, the more everything good will make this process smoother (wont be easy by a long shot). This last weekend I looked myself in the mirror and had to detach from my marriage finally. One more month the way I was going, who knows what would have happened. I went from being well above average in my career to sometimes forgetting how to drive my truck. This will beat you down if you let it.
To summarize, listen to these people sooner rather than later. I waited 9 months to face myself and my problems, please don't do that buddy, wouldn't wish this even on my wife's AP.
M 1.5 years, her affair was before 1 year T 7 Years
